Radio Show: Step into Your Self Leadership

This week on *Eyes Wide Open*, we're unpacking one of the most overlooked leadership skills there is:  The ability to hold tension without rushing to certainty.  We'll explore the neuroscience behind why the brain craves black-and-white answers, how either/or thinking creates unnecessary stress in the workplace, and why exceptional leaders learn to ask a different question...... 

 We’re unpacking what each Enneagram type does under pressure in leadership and why your workplace stress responses may be masquerading as professionalism.  The Type 1 perfecting. The Type 2 rescuing. The Type 3 performing. The Type 5 disappearing. The Type 8 intensifying. The Type 9 avoiding the conversation until suddenly becoming spiritually allergic to Slack notifications.  You know. Leadership. 😂 

 Ever gone from “I’ll just handle it myself” at 9 AM… to staring at your computer at 2 PM waiting for a mystical sign from God before sending the email?  Same.  In this episode of *Eyes Wide Open*, we’re talking about the two extremes women leaders swing between all the time: forcing everything through pressure and over-functioning… or freezing in overprocessing while calling it “alignment.”  One side burns you out. The other keeps you stuck.  And somehow, many high-achieving women have mastered

The moment they pushed back, you felt it.

Not in your thoughts.
In your body.

A subtle tightening.
A split-second recalibration.
Do I hold the line… or adjust?

So you pivoted. Clarified. Added context. Smoothed it out.

The situation moved on.

But something didn’t land the way you intended… and now you’re left recalculating what just shifted in the room, in the relationships.

That’s the moment this episode is about.

In this conversation on Eyes Wide Open, we break down what’s actually happening..

 You didn’t just lead the meeting… you carried it.  You felt the tension before anyone said a word. Managed the energy. Adjusted your tone. Held the standard. Filled the gaps no one else even noticed.  And you did it well.  So why does it still feel heavy hours later?  Why are you replaying it… tightening it… holding what didn’t get said like it’s still yours to manage?  This is the part high-capacity women don’t talk about.  From the outside, it looks like leadership., but the inside.......

There’s a version of feminine energy that gets praised everywhere right now.

Soft. Magnetic. Intuitive. Receptive.

And most of it sounds beautiful.

But here’s the part no one really wants to talk about.

That same energy… when it’s distorted… becomes one of the most precise forms of control you’ll ever see.

Not loud control. Not aggressive control. Subtle control.

The kind that doesn’t say what it wants…
but still tries to get the outcome....It Manipulates....

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We’re talking about conflict as a leadership capacity. Because avoidance creates behaviors.
Indirectness creates stories. Unspoken desires turn into complaints. And gossip becomes the pressure valve for power we don’t yet know how to hold cleanly.

The moment you can stay present while tension exists, you stop managing people  and start relating to them. That shift lives in the invisible before it ever shows up in conversation.

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When it comes to new beginnings, especially the ones you didn’t choose, the unseen forces at play matter more than the circumstances themselves.

Today we’re working with the Law of Vibration, the Enneagram, and the subtle ways your nervous system, perception, and identity patterns quietly shape how you experience change.

If you're facing a new beginning you'd rather not experience and feel that it's harder than it needs to be, lean in for this conversation

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The very move that feels warm, fair, strategic, thoughtful, optimistic, powerful, or peaceful to you… may be the exact move that lowers trust in the room. Because firmness, when regulated, is not cruelty. Clarity, when embodied, is not cold. So today we’re unpacking this tension. What will feel harsh to your personality. What will feel unnatural in your body. 

 Women leaders today are walking a strange leadership tightrope.

Be warm and relational… but not emotional.
Be decisive and direct… but not intimidating.
Care deeply… but don’t care *too* much.

It’s like being handed a leadership manual that says:
Lead confidently, but not *too* confidently.

What happens is brilliant women start **editing themselves in real time**.

In this episode we explore how women can lead authentically and still be highly successful.